John and Ann Betar of Fairfield, CT were recently named The Longest Married Couple for 2013. They have been married almost 81 years. They are humble people who don’t feel like they have done anything special and don’t like to give marriage advice. But when asked for their secret, their answer was no surprise: compromise and don’t hold a grudge.
Not coincidentally, the longest married couple for 2012 had the same answer: given and take and compromise. I say not coincidentally because the evidence for the value of give and take in lasting relationships, both anecdotal and scientific, is very strong.
You can read more about the value of give and take in lasting relationships in a recent article I wrote for GalTime.com.